Lies and truth
When you are having an affair, lies and truth are very blurring. There isn't a nice black and white. Now that you are here, in the crash so to speak. You will have to become brutally honest with yourself. Honest that will hurt but help you heal. Here are some of the lies you need to dismiss right away. 1. I am a horrible person for what I did. No, you are not. We are creatures of choice. We have the freedom to make good and bad choices. You made a bad choice but you are not a bad person. 2. I destroyed my family. Yes or maybe. There are two things to remember here. One, the members of the family are still a family whether they live together or not. Family dynamics change over time. Kids grow up, move out, and sometimes come back. Family is not the iconic picturesque scenes we see on television or online. Two, odds are that you and/or your family was already suffering from some type of damage. This damage could be isolated in you. It could involve you and your (ex)spouse. ...